Have you ever reached a point in life where you ask yourself why you are alive? What your purpose on earth is? Or you feel stuck in your career, or life in general? Or you maybe feel like you have no momentum or zeal anymore for the things you once did before? Well, this may be because you haven’t found your “Why”. Read on to find out more about what is having a “why”, as I get to list some of the things that give me my “why”.
Transcript
Hello, and welcome to Mother of Abundance – the place where ambitious, caring mothers find information on how to live your best life. So whether you’re a mother who’s growing a business, climbing the corporate ladder, studying for a qualification, or an at-home mother, while striving to be the best you can be, you’re in the right place. I’m your host, Xina Gooding Broderick.
Hello and welcome. Welcome to Season 3 Episode 3. How are you doing? Are you well? Are you happy? I’m telling you this last week has been testing.
My son went back to school for all of a week. Then his COVID bubble burst in his class. Then he had to be home. When he went back to school, I thought, “Great! I can catch up on all the things that I’ve got to do. That’s absolutely fantastic!” And he was at school for five days. And then his bubble burst.
And we were really looking forward to him being able to spend his birthday with his school friends. Unfortunately, he had to be at home, back at home again, on his birthday. So I had to run around and make a birthday cake.
By the way, I made him some fantastic birthday cake. Let me know if you want the recipe for the vegan chocolate cake that I made because it was fantastic. In fact, I’ll put it in the show notes for you guys. So you can have a little look and perhaps a little taste of your own cake. And if you make it and it turns, let me know how it turns out. If you make it, please, make it, put a picture on socials, tag me in the picture. Because whether I’m eating the chocolate cake or looking at the chocolate cake, I’m happy.
Okay, so we managed to make his birthday work really well. We got him the cake. He was able to play with his friends over Zoom. He had a great time. He was happy he got the present he wanted, which was a Spider-Man with bendy toes. A Spider-Man with bendy toes, you know, the child was talking about it for the longest time. So you know I had to get him this Spider-Man with bendy toes. And what else did he want?
He wanted Animal Crossing. So the family, when it comes to, you know, quite what I consider to be pricey toys or games or whatever, I let him know he’s not likely to be getting more than one. Well, he got Spider-Man with the bendy toes, because that was what I considered to be a reasonable price for a toy. And then he got the Animal Crossing game, which he really liked. And I told him that as a family we’re going to chip in and get that for him. So that was the result.
But, my goodness, trying to juggle with everything else, I actually started struggling with the juggling. And had to just step back, and breathe. And remind myself, I work for myself. I work for myself. And I’m a good boss. So you might have noticed that a podcast episode didn’t go out, last Monday. I apologize for that. But that’s why I wasn’t able to hardly do anything. So I thought, I’m just gonna have to do what I can do. And I’m still working through my master’s. Still working through my masters. I don’t know if…I have to fight sometimes with getting the motivation. But you know what, I keep going.
And do you know why I keep going? Because my why is massive. My why is HUGE, huge. It’s big, big, big, big, big. And I think about my why all the time. So let’s just step back and talk about that for a moment.
What Is Your “Why”?
Have you ever reached a point in your life where you ask yourself, why you’re here? What your purpose is? What your life is for? Or maybe you feel stuck in your career or your life in general or you feel like you have no momentum or zeal anymore for the things that you used to do Well, this might be because you haven’t found your why. I’m not talking about the 25th letter in the alphabet.
When I’m talking about your why, I’m talking about a statement of purpose that describes why you do the work you do and why you live the lifestyle you live. It’s a calling, conviction, mission statement, a vision of your life and work, your core source of motivation. It’s like a reference point for all your decisions and actions and it defines who you are and what makes you productive. It’s the reason for your life’s work.
Benefits of Finding Your Why
There are huge, huge benefits of finding your why. And the main one is it provides you with clarity. So that whole confusion or question asking that you might find yourself doing if you know your why, you have clarity and the question kind of, of why you even exist, tends to dissipate and go away. Another benefit is that infuses you with a passion for your goals because you’ve got focus now. You know why you’re doing the things that you do.
It keeps you focused on your goals. It helps you to live healthier and longer. It helps you to develop resilience, because if you’ve got a big why, there’s nothing that’s gonna stop you from getting there. It allows you to live a life with integrity because you know what you’re doing, you know what you’re about and you know why you’re doing those things.
How To Find Your “Why”
So if you don’t know what your why is, there are a few ways that you can do it. And here are some questions that you can ask yourself. You can ask yourself:
- What makes you come alive?
- What are your innate strengths?
- Where do you add the greatest value?
- How will you measure your life?
Like me, I know, that love makes me come alive. Love of my family, love of the work that I do, and helping people to love what they do, too. That is my thing. What is my innate strength? I can tell you that I’m an effective communicator. I’m an effective communicator. And I love sharing information. So if you’ve got one of those friends who shares links that are useful, that’s me. That’s, I’m the one. I will find out what you like and when I come across a link with more information about that thing, I will remember that you like that and I will share it with you. And that is one of my innate strengths. So I’m an effective communicator. I remember what are the things that people like. And I love sharing with people on their terms.
Where do you add the greatest value? So for me adding the greatest value is offering my love of love from one to many. I’m on a mission. I’m on a mission to spread the love on a massive level. So I need to do that one to many. And that’s why I do my podcast, that’s why I’ve got the Facebook group.
And one of the last questions that you can ask yourself is how will you measure your life? How will you measure your life? One of the ways I measure my life is how much laughter we have. And that doesn’t mean that we’re pretending there’s nothing wrong. Let’s face it, open your eyes, look at what’s going on in the world. It’s a pretty challenging time right now for most of us. No, I don’t mean we don’t have challenges but we have a lot of laughter in my home. And that’s one of the ways that I measure my life.
When I come to the end of my days, I want my whole love vessel to be empty. I am pouring it all out right now. I’m not waiting. I’m pouring my love and my joy and my laughter out on everything and into every day. And I do not do this by denying my emotions. If I’m upset about something, those who are closest to me, they are going to know.
But I try and get rid of that negative emotion. I feel it, you know. I acknowledge it but I don’t let it run away with me. But for me, the big thing is when I’m old, I want to know that I loved out my last drop of love. I’m going to continue until my very last breath – loving and giving love and receiving love and joy and laughter. That’s how I’m going to be measuring my life, definitely. And I’m clear about that.
Where To Get Help To Know How To Find Your “Why”
There are places that you can find how to help you come to your why. And one of them is definitely, without a doubt, Your Best Life Academy. One of the things that is focused on, in there, is what is your purpose? Because, although, when coaching, you know, we can talk about goals and stuff like that, you might find, unless you know what your why is, you’re kind of on the wrong trajectory. You may not even realize it. You might be thinking, “Oh, I’m a little bit lackluster in this career at the moment, because I haven’t had many sales recently, or I haven’t seen as many patients in my chiropractic practice recently.” You might be thinking, that’s the reason why, but it might be because you’re not supposed to be a chiropractor. It could be that you’re supposed to be a gardener or, you know, who knows. But without your why, you might find that you’re actually not on the path that you truly, truly want because you’ve not taken out the time to sit down and think about it.
Definitely do the questions that I have outlined here to help you find your why, the questions. But if you need help actually getting there and creating habits to maintain being on the correct trajectory, then definitely Your Best Life Academy is worth looking into. There is an offer for a limited time. We are accepting at the moment, our founding members. So founding members, get the course half price. They will be able to get access to all future iterations of the academy. It’s likely to be released with updates. We’ll do launches throughout the year. But every year it’s likely to be upgraded. And the founding members will have lifetime access to all upgrades.
This is an executive coaching program. So if you’re in leadership, or you own your own business, and you’ve got your leadership role in the workspace, and you’ve got to come home and be a leader in the home space, this is a perfect, perfect course for you. You can just write to me, you can DM me, let me know that you’re interested. I’ll send you further information. We’re lucky that, I’m really lucky that Your Best Life Academy is sponsoring this podcast. So I’m really pleased about that. But yeah, you can contact me directly. Or you can email me at hello@motherofabundance.com for further information.
If you are in a leadership role and you want your organization to sponsor you, please speak to HR and send them my way. Let them know that you’re interested. I’ll let them know my leadership qualifications and further information about my role and why their organization should be helping mothers in leadership roles, with this particular program, because they will definitely benefit. So send them my way. Give them my details.
In the meantime, I would like to know what your why is. If you already know what your why is, that is fantastic. I’ve given you my why. You know I’m big on love and positivity, positive energy, and helping people to live a full, well, I didn’t say it but really, for me, it’s about helping people to live a fulfilling life – a life with no regrets. That’s what I’m after. And I want to share that. I want to scale that. I really want to do that. I’m on a mission for that.
What is your mission? What is your why? What is your goal? Do you have one? Have you thought about it before now? If not, send it to me. If you’re in my Facebook group, Mother of Abundance Facebook Group, be sure to post it. I’ll be asking in the group as well, what your why is, so please let me know. I would love to hear from you. So until next time, have an abundant day and an abundant week.
The Mother of Abundance Podcast is brought to you by Your Best Life Academy for Ambitious, Loving Mothers. A 10-week coaching program, which will give you the tools, habits, and strategies to ditch overwhelm, overcome maternal guilt and be more present for your family.
References:
What is Your Why? 12 Steps to Find Your Purpose in Life
Do You Know Your “Why?” 4 Questions To Find Your Purpose
